It’s that time of year to reflect on the last 12 months. Last year I suffered from self-doubt, procrastination, overwhelm, stress, frustration and felt the impact in making ill-informed assumptions. I learned the value of relationships and the opportunities they bring and critically the power of taking action.
Here’s what I learned this past year, I hope that you get something from reading this.
1. Stop overthinking, eat fear and fail forwards
If you have a great idea? Just Start. Expect to fail and even look forward to it. We are scared to fail in some manner, but fear is an opportunity for us to grow. We need to lean out from our comfort zone because that where the magic happens. We need to get on with it, listen to our gut and DON’T overthink it. Overthinking fans the flames of overwhelm, procrastination and self-doubt which is stressful and keeps us in analysis paralysis. In the end, it drains your enthusiasm and momentum. So just START!, if you fail – smile, as you’ve just learned how not to do it and you’re one step closer to your goal. There’s no such thing as failure, only feedback.
2.The myth of job security
For me being made redundant at the end of the year was very tough. Like so many people who are made redundant, the negative emotions you experience in the first few days and weeks are very powerful. I was fearful of the future, I doubted myself and the short-term impact on my family. I was 42 and feeling like I had been discarded and surplus to requirements. Not everyone’s circumstances are the same, but for me – I wanted a new challenge and for many years wanted to work for myself. I knew from reading books like Rich Dad, Poor Dad (amazing book for the financially curious)that as an employee I was not going to achieve financial independence. Perhaps this was my chance? I couldn’t help but think that the universe had just given me a big shove – I had procrastinated enough. I wanted to be free of corporate nonsense and office politics, working for people who didn’t have my best interests at heart. It was time. I realised with this redundancy that there there’s no such thing as job security when working for someone else. I decided that my financial future and that of my young family shouldn’t lay in the hands of others. in 2020, I understood the need for multiple streams of income to reduce risk to your financial challenges in the future. So this set the wheels ion motion to consult as a content marketer and digital producer as my main source of income while bootstrapping the Ignited Man podcast.
3.Self-care is critical to your mental wellbeing and success
Put yourself first, your health and well-being. You are no good to ANYONE if your own battery is empty.
The value of relationshios
Genuine and authentic connection is the ultimate winner when it comes to leads, new opportunities, new connections not via the self-serving or the promotional.
5.The benefits of your tribe
Value your friends, they are your real tribe. They hold you accountable, give you the kick up the backside you need, offer support and council – they also make you properly laugh out loud. 6. Be grateful. You may have a bad situation happening but reframing what you grateful for gives you the reserves that can pull yourself out of challenging times with a can-do mindset.
7.The Impact of assumptions
Never make assumptions. If you’re not informed, assumptions can drive paranoia, negative behaviour and mindset. All of which is a waste of energy and your time. Happy 2020 to all!